What’s in a name? Should you take your husband's surname?

The pending nuptials of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle have royal watchers brushing up on royal naming practices and asking ‘what’s in a name?’

A new study shows that a wife’s choice of surnames may influence perceptions of her husband’s personality and the distribution of power in the marriage.

In a three-part study conducted in the US and the UK, Rachael Robnett and her co-authors concluded that men whose wives retain their own surnames after marriage are seen as submissive and less powerful in the relationship.

“The marital surname tradition is more than just a tradition. It reflects subtle gender-role norms and ideologies that often remain unquestioned despite privileging men,” said Ms Robnett.

What are your thoughts about women taking the surnames of the men they marry?

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It depends -- if you wish to do it if not don't -- maybe have your single name hyphened with your Husbands name so as there is no mistake with any Children of the Mariage

Quote from Original Post.."In a three-part study conducted in the US and the UK, Rachael Robnett and her co-authors concluded that men whose wives retain their own surnames after marriage are seen as submissive and less powerful in the relationship."

Well..I just have to laugh..I imagine most sensible people would think the opposite.. this must be a mistake! Surely a woman who retains her surname is putting it out there that she's not submissive or powerless?

Because of tradition..I adopted my first husband's surname..but saw no reason to change again for my second marriage..and I can assure these researchers I am far from "submissive" or "less powerful." We have a partnership..both are equal..

It's a matter of choice for couples whether they change or not...I like the German system where either husband or wife can adopt the surname of the other and they can combine the two surnames for their children..

Now here's something that will either make you laugh or see red!!

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f2LxHuXcUTg


Thea you misread the moment. It was a comment about men being submissive. I watched 2 minutes of your video and saw red.

Oops..thank you Tib! So it's the men who are "submissive" and "less powerful"..I don't agree with that either because I feel a man who doesn't make waves about such a silly thing is broadminded and shows a nice attitude..

I saw red too..not a nice person is she!

No Thea she is not a nice person but probably nicer than Ms Robnett and her friends.

:) Sometimes when I read articles Katie Hopkins has written, I see more that red. Grrr.

Apparently her time with Mail Online has come to an end.

It seemed like a match made in heaven: Katie Hopkins, professional big mouth; and Mail Online, internet behemoth. By signing her up as a columnist two years ago, the world’s biggest news website bagged itself arguably Britain’s most provocative commentator. Hopkins for her part, gained an even bigger audience for her extreme views. Now, however, the partnership is at an end, the decision not to renew Hopkins contract made by “mutual consent”. Source.

A little more about Rachael Robnett’s research interests, presuming it's the same person referred to in the original post.

RnR I read Robnetts research interests. She's a full on femtard loony. Thought as much.

Hilarious 

not surprised at Thea’s embarrassing boo boo, as we all know she’s not very bright and one very  opinionated old lady who’s full of herself 

Embarrassing boo boo? Not at all…a couple of commas in the right places would have made the meaning clear to someone who reads in haste..besides, embarrassment is a useless emotion and has no important standing in my life..

Opinionated? Of course I am. Opinionated people think for themselves..they don’t follow the sheeple blindly. So thank you!

Old lady? I am very happy to grow old…it’s better than being dead at a young age! We are all old..some grow old in a negative way..others like myself, enjoy the sunshine!

Not very bright? The proof is in the pudding Raphael..unfortunately.. we have had dollops of your pudding..so you are no reliable judge.

Full of herself? Of course..I can’t be full of anybody else so I am happy to have a very high opinion of myself!

HAHAHHAHAHA :)))

No need to explain yourself 

silly old obnoxious person

ROFLMAO 

HAHHAHAHA

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Ms Robnett thinks men are privileged does she, what a surprise. I hate feminism  for its obvious misandry. At the core of feminism is a hatred of marriage and they would like to see the end of it.

While I might have disagreed with them once in this instance I am now in agreement, marriage is dead and more men are agreeing with this view every day. Not only do I think women should keep their own name I think they should stay in their own house and men should just visit for sex. 

Confucious say:-  Man with visiting rights in order to light spark must keep car well maintained!

This talk about changing surnames after jumping the broom. Don't want to offend in any way, but what happens in a same sex marriage? Do they retain their surnames or what? Anyone knows?

Reagan, my two gay deck hands are getting married and we're going to the wedding. Should be fun! I did ask them about the name thing, and they are retaining their individual surnames. Guess most gays will do the same, although now that it's legal, they can also change their names.

That's great news Micha, hope they'll be very happy.

 

congrats micha - you must be one of the bridesmaids

Nah, not this time, but are you interested chi chi?

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What is the make of your boat's engine, Micha?

@ Micha, hilarious!

Micha,

As you have no problems with mentioning your two-person crew, could you please tell us what type of craft you have and the make of your marine engine?

I am ignorant as to this type of vessel.

 

Micha

I think the minion is either after a job as a scrubber or galley cleaner, LOLOL

She says she's "ignorant" to this type of vessel, when she doesn't even know what sort of boat it is. Now that's ignorant!!!!!

 

 

HAHAHA, maybe she wants  to buy my boat Reagan.

Or she might just want to be my bubbe and get a free trip! Either way the answer is  NO.

Talk later, people arriving soon my friend.

 

Micha,

I am ignorant of any two-man crew vessel.

Any other person would not be coy - a simple question - a simple answer. ... Such coyness on your part suggests this is but another of your fantacies.

 

Micha, ignore the troll.

She is "ignorant" all right plus she can't read. You said "two gay deck hands", not crew.

Deck hands are not a two man crew - they are part of a crew.

I thought this Hanukkah business was some sort of celebration for Jewish people. How come she is harassing you when she should be celebrating with family??? Beats me.

Besides, everyone on the forum knows, we do not have any interaction with this woman.

 

 

Ray, could be, she has no family to celebrate with, so trolling seems to be her way of dealing with it. She seems to have a fixation with Micha, am wondering if because they’re both Jewish, she feels she can pester him, maybe she wants to adopt him? A fate worse than death I’d say! 

Wonder what makes her think any of us would answer a question from her????  Talk about being brass faced. Off to bed now mate, early and long day tomorrow – lots to do at my “fantasy” gyms, not meaning to be “coy” or anything you understand, LOL 

Reagan,

Not meaning to down my Jewish culture or anything, but old Jewish women are known for being like that. Give them a bone and they will contend with it forever. Thank G-d my two grandmothers were different.

The  twil falls into the category of “yenta” which means a gossipy old Jewish woman who can’t keep her trap shut and I'm not being "coy" HAHAHA

avatarTwila12 mins ago

 

A lady never belittles nor humiliates another person.

A lady ensures that another person, no matter where-ever they sit within society, always feels comfortable in her presence ... never conscious of any difference in status.

A lady is always gracious, kind and gentle.

A lady never proclaims she is a lady, nor does she laud about things she has or does.  She is modest.

 

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There is no right or wrong way to approach changing names.

Some women retain their maiden-name because they are professionals, established in their fields, and changing names would be very inconvenient.

Other women have their names hyphenated with their husbands.

Some women just want to take their husbands name ...

Perhaps same-sex couples will have their names hyphenated.

 

Is what women want a serious discussion. Not really.

Does this really matter?

Women should do what they feel comfortable with, men should choose a path that suits them.  Personally, if my prospective wife wanted to keep her own name and had a good reason to, I would listen, if the reason was just so they could be seen as trendy, we would probably end up going our separate ways.  

Women are free to make choices, men are free to make choices, but choices should be made based on reason.

If I was going to marry a person who had a business or was well known in a certain professional field, I would not think twice about my spouse retaining their name, that would be a decision made on reasonable terms.

I am more concerned with some of the first names that are being given to poor children, don't people realize that their kids will probably be stuck with them for the rest of their lives?

This issue only really matters to the two people involved.  As to an indication of who has power in the marriage, what a load of crap, very few successful marriages I know of even give consideration as to who has more power in the relationship.  Power, if you must call it that is shared with the stronger partner taking the lead in areas that they are better suited to.

All I can say is people such as her should be sterilised -- I feel for her Kids  

Hi Micha, interesting about your two gay deckhands, which one is the scrubber? I think maybe a non scrubber should retain his/her surname. Of course if they were Irish deckhands  they could change their names to Patrick Fitzgerald and Gerald Fitzpatrick ??

Good  suggestion sageman. Unfortunately one is Aussie and the other Kiwi. Uniting the two countries!

Good suggestion? No, it’s homophobic shit! What is wrong with you people? You sound SO ancient sageman and Micha....old, old, old men living a yesterday old, old, old nonsensicle homophobic reality.

 

My favourite thing to do during the Summer months is to go down to the beach and watch the sun come up..and this morning I took my yoga class doing just that..the feeling of being at one with nature is incredibly beautiful and joyful..

Instead of fighting and turning every situation into a nasty one..try a few simple yoga movements  or Tai Chi instead and see how your well being improves...

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   Namaste...

Agree Thea, I completed a CHI GUNG course a few years ago run by an instructor of martial arts. It may have some elements of tai chi. One of the benefits was that you were able to control your breathing in such a way that it was possible to retain energy even after strong physical workouts, jogging or even vigorous long walks. It takes a bit of practice but amazingly it was possible to extend training beyond normal limits.

 

Namaste sageman...

If only I had known about Chi Gung when I started training as a singer years ago..what a help that would have been with my breathing!

You have my admiration for having completed a course..that  sort of training remains with you for the rest of your life -:)


Yes - big difference between screeching like an old owl and  singing with chi gunh ying yang.

not to late to learn

think of a positive quote that will help you darling 

good luck 

Hi Micha, yes you did warn me and you were so right! Already seen much evidence of antagonistic and intemperate behaviour and if you deign to answer they go off their tiny nit picking minds with all the ill directed abuse they can muster ! You see, they can dish it out but no way can they take it themselves!!

Hi Micha, yes you did warn me and you were so right! Already seen much evidence of antagonistic and intemperate behaviour and if you deign to answer they go off their tiny nit picking minds with all the ill directed abuse they can muster ! You see, they can dish it out but no way can they take it themselves!!

 

A person who loves to hurt others, goes out of their way to do so, does not see it as wrong, and has no remorse is a ... SOCIOPATH.

 

Yep you have just described yourself.

Not surprising you were banned from two forums (that I know of).

Recently married Western Bulldogs player Clay Smith is adding his wife’s name to his, to create a hyphenated surname.

He married partner Sarah O’donohue in October and changed his name to Clay O’donohue-Smith.

Good on you Clay!

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