Good on you Bev the secret to a happy life is being happy with yourself--and being able to enjoy the simple things in life-- just like you just did--they work out to be the best after all

We have had a great day also. Did not get showered or dressed until mid day but watched Andre Rieu for a couple of hours on pay t.v. and sitting with Peter watching his beloved Swans play (wish they were winning for him) but gives me pleasure he can watch the footy. he enjoys so much and we have pay t.v. for just that, but other things make it o.k. as we enjoy U.K. T.V. and other shows albeit still think they could do better for the money.

Have to go on Monday and have the Holter Monitor fitted because of my heart Arrythmia

which is deciding to keep going out of whack. What a pain and really cannot be bothered!! but my doctor will get mad as it is awhile I have taken to make the appointment to have it fitted and the appointment for the heart specialist. Oh well gotta do what we gotta do.

It was a lovely day here also.

Life really is good hey.

Yes good for me too, lovely day, Dad only messed the toilet seat once and the ointment for his conjunctivitis seems to be working, I don't have to wipe stuff off his eyes all the time now. Changed his wound dressings yesterday so doesn't have to be done again till Monday. Would like to do something that doesn't revolve around bodily fluids for a change.

Yes good for me too, lovely day, Dad only messed the toilet seat once and the ointment for his conjunctivitis seems to be working, I don't have to wipe stuff off his eyes all the time now. Changed his wound dressings yesterday so doesn't have to be done again till Monday. Would like to do something that doesn't revolve around bodily fluids for a change.



God Almighty how dreadful you should speak of your Father like that Jacinta. One day if you live long enough your bodily functions may be compromised also.

Would you like your children one day to speak about you over the Internet the way you have spoken of him here? I do not think so.

Why would a daughter be doing these things for him anyway. He can get a District nurse in, if he is on a Pension. I am sure your Dad must hate you doing such things for him.

How very sad for a I am sure once proud man to come down to this. I would think a hospital or at least a nurse should be doing things for him. I find it distasteful for your Dad to have you doing this.

I feel very sorry for the man. o.k. maybe for you also, but are you just doing it so you can groan on the internet for all to have a laugh at his expense? People probably read this know your Father.

Hello All.

Well Saturday has been good for me as well. (No way can I sleep in past 7.00AM).

we went to see our second eldest G Son play Aussie football.

Some of these "boys" are giants and all are 19 years or less.

Anyway a good natured match no fights and the parents were well behaved as well.

Best wishes.

Peter.

Who does he play for Peter.............???

Yes good for me too, lovely day, Dad only messed the toilet seat once and the ointment for his conjunctivitis seems to be working, I don't have to wipe stuff off his eyes all the time now. Changed his wound dressings yesterday so doesn't have to be done again till Monday. Would like to do something that doesn't revolve around bodily fluids for a change.



God Almighty how dreadful you should speak of your Father like that Jacinta. One day if you live long enough your bodily functions may be compromised also.

Would you like your children one day to speak about you over the Internet the way you have spoken of him here? I do not think so.

Why would a daughter be doing these things for him anyway. He can get a District nurse in, if he is on a Pension. I am sure your Dad must hate you doing such things for him.

How very sad for a I am sure once proud man to come down to this. I would think a hospital or at least a nurse should be doing things for him. I find it distasteful for your Dad to have you doing this.

I feel very sorry for the man. o.k. maybe for you also, but are you just doing it so you can groan on the internet for all to have a laugh at his expense? People probably read this know your Father.









How dare you say such things on this forum where free speech is paramount ......if you do not like what you see then do not comment so badly ............

That's wondrous statement, especially coming from you, of all people, Clay.

I know what you mean Clay it is VERY VERY sad an old man is denegrated SO VERY much on a site goes all around the world and like all of us I know you would not want the World knowing all about your Pooping Problems. It is NOT nice is it.

I do not think other than to try and get through to Miss jacinta's sensibilities and put herself in her Father's situation as you said "Free Speech here" as her Father is not in a position I would suggest to stop her free speech or other.

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I think Clay must have been very shocked like the rest of us is it Mr. Innes?

I am sure you would not like as I would not have a woman come in and tell the world about us as she has about her poor old Dad in such private and personal situations where she or any o of us could find ourselves at any time if over 60 years of age.

I think Miss jacinta should read back about how she treats her Dad and will sensor "hereself" I hope anyway.

I can imagine many stories of how many of you looked after your Mum and Dad for years as a labour of love and often no thank you's BUT I have NEVER EVER seen anyone go on-line and tell the world about (alive at that and still comprehending) Their Dad and how he has all these bodily functions he cannot control and how she cleans poop up a big part of the day.

Please think anyone who does this (I have never seen it before on any forum though) thank God. It is something he cannot help. Do not do it get a nurse in or let him be looked after by a non sibling which is probably better for Miss jacinta as she finds it so nasty to do.

People on the Age pension are entitled to a Nurse coming in and home help.

Context can be very important for comment.



If I were going through what was described, day in and day out, and then open up the forum to read what a wonderful day others are having, I might react depressively too. I don't think I would go into so much detail....but the trap on the internet is , once it's typed, it's out there.



Who hasn't had a bad day, when one's circumstances seem utterly mountainous and insurmountable?



It's easy to criticise, but none of us walk in anyone else's shoes.

Nonetheless, good advice often comes to the fore as a result.



Home nursing is available up to a point.

But there are things that need attention dozens of times a day, whereby a nurse would only be available for a limited amount of time.



My suggestion would be to look for support groups...perhaps initially through the council, or organisations which cater for the aged and disabled. Respite care may be available.

I can sympathise fully with Miss Jacinta, whilst I was lucky?if you can call it that, the few months that my mother lived with my late husband and I before she died the only assistance mum needed was to have her back washed and dried, I did end up having to blend her food to try and get her to eat.My husband did not ever need help with any of his bodily functions either again only getting his back washed and dried. Mum died of cancer in 2002 and my husband died in 2005 after his fifth open heart surgery due to staph bug stuffing up his heart ailment that he had been born with. As far as getting assistance into the house goes, well not knowing what state Miss Jacinta lives in all I can do is quote about what I know about here in Perth (and even then some of the stuff can differ depending on where in the state you live and your council too). Silver Chain is available if you meet their criteria and sometimes there is a small charge , they can come in twice or three times a day and you can call the nurse in if there is need for a strong pain killing injection needed between the usual visits, there is a home service run by pathology organisations to come and take blood for blood tests and there is a hospital in the home program if your ailment fits the requirements of this program and you have to live in a certain area too, all of these things do not have a set time to come, the timing might be quoted as after 8am and before 10 am or between 1pm and 4pm , all of this means you have to be there to let the nurse and/or doctor in , if you need to go shopping then when I was in this situation the absolute maximum time I could get a carer to come was for four hours and as I do not drive it meant tight organising of buses and the shopping as taxi fares were out of the question. My council (and I do not think any do) does not supply medical help, you can get assistance to getting to and from medical appointments as long as they are within certain hours due to the restrictions placed on the time the volunteer drivers are allowed to be out and about.All of this boils down to one thing that if you are not eligible for any of these services due to being outside the financial criteria or not being in an area that has these services you have to do it all yourself just as Miss Jacinta is doing. This forum and others like it are often the only outlet for people like Miss Jacinta to try and get people to understand what they are going through and gives them a point of social contact because not all the carers associations can even provide time out for the person who needs the break and speaking from knowing a couple who are both in their 70's where the husband has his own health problems but is still fairly mobile and is his wifes carer if he wants to get her into respite care for a week to ten days so he can have a break unless it is a real and I mean real emergency they have to have to book the respite care at least six months ahead. So I think you and some of the others that post on some of the different areas of this website should realise that everybodys situation is different and do not condemn people for the way they cope with things, the old saying that we probably all used to poke fun at has as part of it , walk a mile in the other persons shoes- in other words do not condemn what you do not know.

Miss Jacinta I hope that you have as nice a day as is possible under the circumstances and if there was some way of giving you my email address (even though it is temporary) privately I would so that you could have a chat without the hassle you get on site at times.

Hello Clay and All.

Clay I almost missed your very short question about "Who does he play for".

Well the answer is he plays for a north of Melbourne suburb called Hurstbridge.

I don't blame you if you have never heard of it.

However it is an attractive leafy part of the world.

As for him playing football we (his grand parents) would rather he play a less dangerous sport.

However as you know lots of boys like the strong physical contact.

Best wishes.

Peter.

[b][/b][size=3][/size]Toot, you can send a personal message to Jacinta via the box at the bottom of each message. There are 3 boxes one of which has PM on it. Just click on this and the message will be delivered to her only.