Is 63 too old to become a mother?

The birth of baby Megan has seen her mother, Tineke Geessink, at the tender age of 63 become the Netherlands oldest ever new mother.

Whilst the advances in medical science for overcoming illness and disease have a tangible benefit to the wider population, have we gone too far with assisted conception to help a woman become a mother, when nature has decided she is too old?

Both mother and daughter may be ‘doing fine’ but is this really the point? Has this woman been selfish to fulfill “a feeling she claims to have had for so long” and shouldn’t she have done something about it sooner?

Born by Caesarian section and the result of conception by a foreign sperm donor, baby Meagan may not have as long with her mother as would be ideal but, as single mother Gressnick a single mother told Dutch public radio, “There is no guarantee that if you have a child at a young age you will see your child grow up’.

Is this a sufficient reason for her actions? What do you think?

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At 66 years of age , I think personally shes nuts, but to each his own . I just hope there is other family to care for the child should something happen. How sad for the child when she becomes a mother in perhaps 20 years time, this woman will either be dead or very ancient, one has to wonder why she waited so long ,maybe too busy having fun. I had my 4 daughters between the ages of 20 and 30 and am so glad I did, now I am free and still young enough to have fun. Wobbly.

Hi Wobbly



Love your post - and I'm inclined to agree with you.

While in most instances i support people doing anything they like at any age (within the law, of course) i can't help but feel that the child is disadvantaged with such an old mum. Imagine school sports days and so on - the poor child would feel very very different.

Maybe this is one of the very few situations where love simply isn't enough?



Kaye

I wonder how she'll cope if she gets all the usual menopause symptoms with hot flushes etc. I'm thankful to be a Nanna at this age and return the toddlers to their parents with a sigh of relief and a Nanna nap after a hectic day keeping up with the brood!

Yes. When the daughter is 20, her mum will be 83!

Rosemary

I think 40 years is to old to have a baby,my second husband had two teenage boys when he reached 53 years and he said he couldn't be bothered with them, and he had nothing in common with them,they didn't live with us,

I had my four children by the time I was 27 years old





jesse j

[size=3]This woman is just plain selfish. She isn`t thinking of the child at all. My parents were 38 when I was born in 1947 and I had a very difficult time particularly when I started school with kid`s asking why my grandparents always picked me up, etc., and we didn`t have the bullying that is now rife. I feel so desperately sorry for this little girl. My mother was set in her ways when I came along, I might add also I was an only child, and although at the time I lived a charmed life of not having any chores it has certainly come and bitten me on the bum now. I wasn`t allowed to do these things because I didn`t do them right and my late mother didn`t have the patience to help me. Mind you by the time I was 10, I now know, she was going through menopause with all of it`s associated problems. I know for a fact I wouldn`t cope with a new baby now, It`s lovely to see the kids but terrific to be able to hand them back at the end of the visits too. [/size]

I am 63 yrs old and do not mentally feel it but unfortunately my body tells me otherwise, In my mind I can do all those little things like bathe ,change and feed a little one , in reality my physical shortcomings ie arthritis, vascular problems and mild angina say otherwise .



I have six grown children (all healthy) , eight grandchildren and one great grandchild , I have done my bit for the continuation of mankind and although I would love to nurture another child I know I am incapable of giving it all the time and care I once could.



Enough is enough and it should not be allowed in someone so (dare I say it ) old, it would be different if she was in her forties and it was her last hope of having children , keep this kind of "HELP" for younger people who may still be around to see them grow up and start their own life with a loving partner .

When you are over 50, never mind 60, a variety of physical aspects come into play as regards giving birth.

I am one of those women who actually enjoyed being pregnant, and had to wait until my 30's due to some problems, thankfully my kids are all fit and well, and our latest grand-child is due in a few weeks. However, I would not have been physically able to cope with all that having a baby entails when over 60 i.e arthritis, back problems etc., This lady may feel quite well now, but when the child is ready for School - how will she cope then with old age (she'll be nearly 70) and all the hectic schedule a School child brings into ones life.

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