How to be more popular

Do you want people to like you more? Think of you as attractive, but also as one of them? Try nodding more, suggests new research. This simple, non-verbal gesture may do wonders for your popularity.

Two Japanese researchers investigated how those who nod often are perceived, as compared with those who are more prone to shaking their head.

Nodding frequently makes you 30 per cent more popular and more attractive too. Just as long as it’s natural.

The researchers asked participants to rate the likability of computer-generated figures to arrive at their results.

The researchers asked 49 Japanese adults aged 18 and above to watch short clips of figures nodding, shaking their head, or staying still.

The participants then had to rate the figures' attractiveness, approachability, and likability, using a scale from 0 to 100.

Overall, the study revealed that the nodding figures were rated as 30 per cent more likable and 40 per cent more approachable than the motionless figures or the figures that shook their head.

What do you think? Do you find people that nod frequently more approachable?

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Quote.. Do you want people to like you more? Think of you as attractive, but also as one of them?

Personally..I believe if someone is confident and knows what they are talking about..then they don’t need “nodding” for the above purposes..having said that.. nodding is very contagious and can be a great advantage I have found..I don’t mean the Nodding Dog type of nodding we see in some people’s cars that irritate..no I am talking about subtle nodding.

Learning to navigate social situations is really very important and I don’t think it’s about wanting to be popular..more about getting people interested in your ideas.. and.. anything that helps is good in my book…showing feelings is very important in my opinion as long as one doesn't go too overboard...

In my experience I have found that learning to nod at the right time can be very instrumental in getting a point across..and to do this it really is paying attention to the speaker..for to nod at the wrong moment can get you into trouble..however..I believe it’s not only the head that matters it’s what emotions the eyes show..for me they are both very important…they work in tandem…

It’s really quite funny how people will mimic your nodding without knowing it..once they start copying your behaviour..chances are they’re more likely to agree with you and trust you..your idea is taking shape in their heads..if you’re a salesman..you may very likely walk away with a sale and if trying to get an idea across..you may be home and dry..



Interesting thoughts Thea. I agree. It's not hard to pick a person who is out of sync with your ideas when their eyes and their nodding are not working as a team. :)

Some people work hard at being liked and others work hard at selling an idea. They are two very different people imo. It's no fun talking with a person who is not in the conversation. Not nodding at all or showing disinterest. There are exceptions to all rules eg. I've seen sales people who dont nod at all. They are usually profilers who often get it wrong too early. I imagine a nod is a gesture of commonality of thought, opinions or ideas. It's the commonality which builds trust. Ipso facto, nodding is a sign of commonality?

 

So right Frank...it's the slightly blank look in some eyes that confirm they haven't really been listening to a word the speaker said...I've had to deal with a few of those..and I bet you have too!

Hopefully no one will take this the wrong way..but the most confusing head nod I've ever had is the Indian "yes..no..maybe" head shake! You may even have experienced it..

If you ask a yes or no question for me trying to discern the answer can be quite confusing. You’ll barely ever get a straight answer.. just the typical loose shake with the head that says “yes and no” at the same time -:)


LOL, you make a very good point Thea, there are cultural differences in non verbal behaviour to consider. the Indian culture is different from the west in that way because the chin moves from side to side while the eyes roll. Have you considered the difference between a slow nod and a quick deliberate nod?? A slow nod may say, "your'e telling me something I didnt know and I agree with that." On the other hand, a fast nod may say you're telling me something I already know and agree strongly about. At the end of the day, when the sun is setting and the wine is tasting really good, one thing is clear.. as Rod Stewart sang, a nod is as good as a wink to a blind horse. 

Love it...oh yes I agree Frank..a tongue can be loosened with the help of a drop or two!

Really strange for Japanese researchers to do a study like this because part of Japanese culture is to nod constantly.

Both the listener and the speaker, nod to show they're both interested in the conversation. Can't see the point of the study unless it is to introduce more "nodding" to the West.

You couldn’t be more unpopular if you tried 

Advice to a troll…

As empty vessels make the loudest sound, so they that have the least wit are the greatest blabbers..

Hokkaido University Associate Professor Jun-ichiro Kawahara and Yamagata University Associate Professor Takayuki Osugi conducted these experiments.

Kawahara emphasizes, however, "Generalizing these results requires a degree of caution because computer-generated female faces were used to manipulate head motions in our experiments. Further study involving male figures, real faces and observers from different cultural backgrounds, is needed to apply these findings to real-world situations."

Source.

Wise words of caution IMO.

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