Yes of course you should but do not take centre stage ,just as a matter of respect . Wobbly

Yes why not if thats what you want to do

I will treat it as though you are asking for yourself.

People attend the funeral out of respect for the dead and secondly to support those who were near and dear to the dead person, to show respect and support for them.

It is fair to assume from what you said that you didn't have a relationship with the fellow who died either before or after he teamed up with your ex-wife and you don't know his kin.

That you continued some form of contact with your ex-wife is a separate issue.

What would be your objective in attending the funeral?

I would send a condolences card to the ex-wife, that is all and not run any risk of putting my needs ahead of the grieving family, or risk embarrassing them.  These are private not public affairs, unless the person is 'public property' as in the case of a  dignitary whose life has impacted on the community.

I think this depends on the circumstances. I know my son would certainly attend the funeral if his ex partner's husband died. And I would be disappointed if he didn't. Other members of our family would also attend the funeral because we are all still friends of my son's ex partner and her new husband.  To be honest I think her husband's family would probably appreciate we thought enough about their son  to want to pay our respects.

As I said, depends of the circumstances.

I agree it depends on the situation & the relationship you had or have. Also what your children would feel comfortable wiith.

i cant believe im saying this but i agree with nautilus...oh that hurt to say !!!! lol.i wouldnt go but i would call her and offer my condolences and support but definately would not go.

I agree with you zzenda as I cannot ever remember agreeing with nautilus, but I do on this occasion - gee.

As others have said it all depends on the situation. But if you have a marriage break up, how friendly are you to your ex-wife's new husband ?

Remembering at the funeral most will be from both families of the deceased and your exwife. Could be slightly embarassing, as what has your ex told them about you to justify her reason for the marriage break up ?

Unless your were great mates with the person who later married your wife, which would normally mean that you were not such mates now, then maybe you could attend.

Why not  as was earlier suggested, just send her a card expressing your feeling for her loss.

Nautilus is correct. Very recently my ex-wife's partner died in tragic circumstances (he commited suicide and she found him).I debated long and hard about attending the funeral and asked nearly everyone I knew what I should do. Two pieces of advice made sense: if her partner was a friend what would you do? and 'why don't you ask your ex-patrner?'. I did not go, but made sure by texting and phone calls that she knew I was caring about her. Had I attended, it might have made a difficult situation even more awkward.

Chariots

I have said before, it depends on how the relationship is. My son get's on well with his ex-partner's husband , and the two will share a beer. But many breakups are not amicable so that could never happen. 

i'd go to make sure she was dead..........

This discussion is serious, so, not the time for levity, But, I must tell you.  I ran into a friend a while ago & he was quite upset.  I asked him what was wrong & he told me:-  "my wife has shot through with my best mate & I am really going to miss him"!!!

Rachel, Why not? Shows you have no grudge.

Besides, He may not have wanted to die.

My advice is ,if it feels right , do it

Sounds like good advice coming from a Tadpole,