76 year old husband with high care and 56 year old fit healthy wife needs advice
I would like some thoughts and advice please on a situation where a 20year age gap on marriage has raised some concerns about future care. How do I suggest that his needs are now at a level that requires full time nursing care and still respect his dignity and right to choose.? I am virtually only his housekeeper and full time carer at the moment and I would like a fuller life while I am still healthy and fit.
He is 76 and I am 56. Your thoughts and advise would be really welcome.
Thank you for sharing that, wondering. It is a very difficult, confronting and sad situation for any couple to find themselves in. It seems that no matter what decision is made, there will be some who find fault or pontificate and criticise without ever having been in a similar situation themselves.
I suppose anyone in this situation can only research their options, consult with medical and other experts, family etc and in the end, try to make an informed decision that addresses the needs of all concerned as well as they can. It wont please everyone, but then, no decision will.